MY SENSITIVE CLITORIS IS RUINING MY SEX LIFE

Hi Mahogany,

Help, I think there is something wrong with me, I’m really a weirdo. Yeah, the clit is amazing and all but I have a problem. Whenever I try masturbating or when my boyfriend rubs my clitoris it feels overwhelming. I feel overly sensitive to any touch on my clit it hurts. It feels really frustrating even my boyfriend doesn’t understand what is wrong. I need your advise on what to do about this issue so I can enjoy sex. It would be greatly appreciated.

Sharon, 26

Hey Sharon,

Thanks for reaching out to us and bringing this topic to light. First of all you are not a weirdo, all bodies are different and enjoy different things. Plus you deserve bouts of unlimited pleasure for talking about this.

Now, just because the clitoris is the “home of pleasure” doesn’t mean it works the same way in every woman’s body. For some women, the right amount of clitoral touch is pleasurable. While for some women like yourself, any slight touch to the clitoris is more painful than pleasurable. Because all bodies are different, what may work for one person would not work for someone else. While all orgasms are connected to the clit, not all clits are the same.

Despite all orgasms being connected to the clit, it is still possible to enjoy sex with a sensitive clitoris. What you need is indirect clitoral stimulation.Use gentler touches or pressure around the clitoris and not directly. Focus on either sides of the clitoris, or approach the clitoris from the top and save direct clitoral stimulation for the last during intercourse.

Indirect clit stimulation may be confusing at first. Knowing how or where to touch the clit without feeling too sensitive can be confusing. But, not to worry here are some touches you should try with your partner.

  • Press against the clitoris with your palm or finger. Or have your partner do so.
  • Touch the clitoris over your underwear.
  • Draw circles around the clitoris using fingers, toys or a tongue. Pay attention to the wings and avoid the glans. Build slowly to orgasm and maintain the pace.
  • Pay attention to your g-spot.

With these tips you can stimulate your clitoris without worrying about excessive sensitivity. And during penetrative sex have your partner rub on the clitoris with his palm. There you have it, you can enjoy different forms of stimulation on the clitoris without worrying about excess sensitivity.

I hope this helps. Live your best sex life.

Love,

Mahogany.

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