The Sweet Truth About BDSM

In recent times, people have become aware of the existence of BDSM made popular by the movie “Fifty Shades of Grey” and the media has gone wild with the faulty representations of BDSM as a taboo or a psychological sexual disorder. Often times, inaccurate representation of the BDSM community have been portrayed. This is one of the most common and frustrating misconceptions about BDSM.

BDSM isn’t something that emerges from abuse or domestic violence, and engaging in it does not mean that you enjoy abuse or feelings of humiliation, dominance, etc

BDSM: Bondage and discipline (B&D), dominance and submission (D&S), and sadism & masochism (S&M) is all about the erotic and sexual acts and mind-sets of dominating and relinquishing control.
Most people believe that BDSM is always associated with sex. It doesn’t always involve sex, but it can. Another misconception is that BDSM is “all about pain”. This is untrue. Most often, BDSM practitioners are primarily concerned with power, humiliation, and pleasure. Of the three categories of BDSM, only sadomasochism specifically requires pain.
A 2008 study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine found that people who had engaged in BDSM in the past year were no more likely to have been coerced into sexual activity and were no more likely to be unhappy or anxious than those who didn’t do BDSM. And actually, men who engaged in BDSM had lower scores of psychological distress than other men.
Another report published in 2016 proves that BDSM is associated with a sense of personal freedom, Pleasure or enjoyment,  Sense of adventure, Use of personal skills, Relaxation or decreased stress, Self-expression or exploration and positive emotions .

ENJOYING BDSM
The trick to enjoying BDSM is to have an open mind about your sexuality, Reveal to your partner that you want to explore BDSM if you crave it. There is no need to get worried or feel guilty. You should voluntarily pick or choose which BDSM activities you are interested or not interested in. And that can vary depending on the situation, the partner, or even the day. Just remember that consent is a requirement in BDSM, and it’s possible to consent to one thing while still objecting to another.
For instance, you might think that because you enjoyed being submissive under certain circumstances, that means you must agree to a whole host of submissive or masochistic behaviors that you’re not necessarily into. And there’s no rule that says you can’t be both dominant and submissive in different circumstances or with different partners.
Some people go for what’s called ‘sensual dominance,’ which is where there might be some toys or play but no pain involved at all. It’s more like one partner agrees to do everything the other person asks. BDSM doesn’t have to follow any method or pattern, and there is no exact model for what a BDSM relationship can be.”

BDSM FOR BEGINNERS 
There are ways of approaching BDSM to play to your advantage especially for beginners. Try a mask, blindfolds, ice cubes or handcuffs if you’re into them. If you enjoy spanking or being spanked, start subtly and progress to understand how much pleasurable pain you and your partner can endure. If you have a fetish for restriction or bondage and the thought of being tied up excites you, make this dream come true. Whips and nipple clamps are also turn-on for some people. Guide your partner to use them properly if you own them.

SAFE WORDS
SAFE WORDS are important and well-established norms in BDSM. It helps you and your partner stay in control and explore without harming yourselves. It’s important to establish safe words as a beginner and as time goes on, you may not need to use them often. You can discuss with your partner and make up “safe words” that you are comfortable with.
Yes. BDSM can feel better than sex so, give it a try. Explore your deepest desires and enter the realm of ultimate ecstasy.