THREESOME; WHAT YOU SHOULD KNOW BEFORE INVITING THE THIRD PERSON

Threesomes are becoming an increasingly popular fantasy for men, women and couples too. Even though they are extremely popular and tops the first 100 fantasies for men and women only very few persons have made the move.

It’s not hard to imagine because choosing a third can be difficult. But, choosing a third is just the first step to navigating the threesome journey successfully. Inviting a third person into your bedroom can seem like hard work. You have to figure out how to make everyone happy, balance the orgasms and make sure no one is missing out. Now this is where the job lies.

Threesomes, although fun can be very tough and that is why we came up with some tips to help you have the threesome of your dreams, just like you have imagined.

Know the reason you want a threesome

No shades but most women agree to having a threesome just to please their partners and not for their benefit. Sadly, a threesome will not save your relationship if you and your partner are having bedroom problems. Don’t use a threesome as a solution to your bedroom issues, rather focus on exploring new fantasies, techniques and other creative ways to bring back the spark to your relationship.

However, if that is not your reason for wanting a threesome, we can proceed to the next item on the list.

Choosing your partner

The right partner to an extent would determine how the threesome plays out. When choosing a partner, most couples seem to gravitate to someone they know but that is not a good idea. Jealousy can come up along the line and ruin a good friendship which is something you do not want. Another common alternative for couples is picking a random stranger, while this may seem like the easier route, it has its own issues too.

Join online communities like switch.mahogany.ng where you can interact with fellow kinksters and pitch your idea to the third. However you choose your partner make sure that there is a form of attraction between both partners. And don’t forget about safety; get tested before you invite them into bed.

Get comfortable with each other

It is best that everyone is connecting with both partners somewhat equally and no one feels coerced or forced. Go out on casual dates, see movies with each other prior to sleeping together. This way  you all can get a feel of the chemistry both sexually and emotionally.

Set boundaries and stick to it

Whether you are only having sex with your partner or swinging a third, boundaries are important and should be communicated before sex. Although, it may happen that during the sex parties involved may get so turned on and ignore the boundaries but it is important you create one first.

The third may not know what you like or not so you have to clear the air. If you do not fancy your butt hole being touched, communicate that before time to avoid any mix up. To achieve this, create a safe word that can be used and when mentioned would put the activity to an end.

SAFE WORD IDEAS YOU CAN EXPLORE TOGETHER

Be specific about the sexual act

Some couples make a no penetration rule. For some others there is the look and don’t touch rule. There are different philosophies when it comes to threesomes and you and your partner would have to choose what you like best. However you feel, it is important to go over the different sexual scenarios together to talk about what is possible. Just because you are all getting naked doesn’t mean there are still some things that would not be off limits. Talking about this can reduce jealousy that tends to occur after a threesome.

Communicate always

Communicate before, during and after your threesome. Communication would make bringing a third party into the mix effortless. Share your expectations, have your partner share theirs too. This way you can know if you are both on the same page about this new sexual adventure you plan on embarking on.

Remember that a threesome is not about doing things solely for your partner’s pleasure.

It may not turn out as you imagined

Your threesome may turn out great or terrible. It is not a movie where everything is expected to turn out with both couples smiling and grinning from ear to ear. It may just be terrible or worse but it would be okay. Learn from your mistakes and ditch all expectations. Go with the flow.