Dear Mahogany, I just found out my girlfriend has a dildo double my size

Dear Mahogany,

I started dating my current girlfriend a few weeks ago and the relationship has been good. I was at her house yesterday and I can’t remember what I was looking for but I found a dildo that is obviously double my size in her drawer. She is really a nice person but I don’t think I can satisfy her sexually, although we have not had sex yet, but I am so worried.

-BB

Dear BB,

I would like to go straight to the point with you however there are important things you and any other person in this situation need to understand. Your concerns are valid however it does not have to be the end of your relationship with a great person.

Address your fears

You need reflect on what really bothers you about your girlfriend having a dildo, Is it because you feel se wont need you. For example,

• If she can get pleasure from a dildo, what does she need me for?

• The dildo is big! she may not be satisfied with the size of my penis,

• Why can’t I be enough for her?

Does the Vagina get wider?

No matter the size of the p3nis, toy, hand, or even baby, the vagina does not permanently stay stretched or wide. It might adjust to accommodate what’s coming in (or out, in the case of childbirth), but it always bounces back.

If this is your concern, then be rest assured that you can still enjoy pure intimacy with her irrespective of the size of toy she has ever used before you.

Can a toy replace you?

Nope, Never! I understand dildos can be intimidating especially because of their semblance to the real thing but it cannot replace you, rather than seeing the dildo as a competition or a replacement, you can use it as a tool to spice things up.

Does she need me at all?

If she has agreed to be in a relationship with you then she obviously need you. sexual satisfaction can come in different ways and there are 101 and more ways you can explore with each other with or without a toy.

In all, it can be hard to accept, but her toy is not about you. It is not a rejection of you because it has nothing to do with you especially when she got it before she met you.

Owning a sex toy is a personal thing that can be shared in a fun relationship, it is not for only single or lonely people, get to know what she likes and explore each other more intimately.

READ: 5 things you must do before shopping sex toys with your partner.