THINGS TO TRY OUT IF YOU ARE NEW TO BDSM
I don’t think I’m the only one fascinated by the idea of BDSM and everything kinky. If you are reading this, you must have thought about it, remotely considered it or even tried it out(kudos). In case you are new to the idea of BDSM and you are confused about the possibility of it being a sexual activity for weirdos and unstable persons, then you need to change your perspective. There is nothing wrong in wanting a different kind of sex. It just shows you are comfortable enough in your own skin to experiment with other sexual practices.
But, if you are ready to explore that crazy side of you, it’s important you communicate with your partner- before and after especially on a first time basis. For a first time explorer, props are not compulsory until you are ready to incorporate it. That settled, let us begin.
1. Light Spanking
Spanking is one of the sexiest and most common of all the BDSM tips to try out. For a beginner, starting lightly is important and crazier as you go along. You and your partner may want to agree on the number of spanks/blows per session and with time you can decide to increase or decrease on the number you want. You can use your hands, or a paddle depending on what you want. Erotic spanking the steaming right way can help you out in your spanking journey.
2. Hair pulling
This is the tricky part of kinky sex for a first timer. You have to be careful so as not to have your weave ripped off your hair in throes of pleasure (kidding). You can be gentle and rough as you want to be with hair pulling. This does not require any props other than your hands.
3. Name calling
Using aggressive language such as name calling is one of the juicy perks of kinky sex. I find names like whore, jerk, bitch, slut and so on completely sexy during kinky sex. However, name calling should be discussed before time as what may be a major turn-on for one partner can be a vibe killer for another.
4. Titles
This is different from name calling . The use of titles like King, Sir, Ma and so on establishes a form of hierarchy especially when playing the DOM/SUB roles.
5. Blindfolds
If you enjoy reading or watching movies about BDSM then you should find this utterly sexy- if you trust your partner. Having your partner blindfolded and slightly restrained while you pleasure them with certain objects that leaves them guessing. Feather caressing, pinching, teasing or spanking. The essence of this is exercising or being given a form of sexual control.
6. Role play
Honestly speaking, I think this is the main spice in kinky sex. Having a partner assume another role or assuming another role with your partner during sex is a major turn on. You can start with simple roles that you can easily incorporate yourself in if you don’t have the props required for it.
