IS FLIRTING THE SAME AS CHEATING?

Dear Mahogany, is flirting the same as cheating?

I have a boyfriend I have been dating for two years. We are good together and don’t seem to have any problems. But I am the kind of girl that likes to have fun, but it seems like I’ve gone the extra mile.

I met this guy on a social media platform, we started chatting, and things became pretty erotic. We sex chatted and flirt. Sex chatting and flirting was the limit. I remembered I had a boyfriend I love so much, and I didn’t want to cheat on him. We only sex chatted and flirted with each other. We never exchanged nude and I was not going to see him, because then flirting would become cheating.

My boyfriend stumbled on my chats with the other guy from social media. I didn’t see it as a big deal, but my boyfriend freaked out. I didn’t understand why. He called me a cheat. I was shocked. It was all chats and nothing more. So please advise me. First, is flirting the same as cheating? I need to understand this, because I am trying to make up with my boyfriend.

Rose 21.

Dear Rose,

It’s good to know that you want to make up with your boyfriend, and you want to understand the situation. It’s obvious you and your partner didn’t set boundaries in your relationship. Now there are different strokes for different folks.

Communication is very important in every relationship. You and your partner need to talk and agree on what cheating means to each of you. The both of you need to decide if you want an open relationship or something strictly exclusive. You and your partner need to read this article: 5 important topics to discuss with your partner, to help you and  your partner understand each other better.

Love,

Mahogany.