CAN REGULAR SEX MAKE MY VAGINA LOOSE

Dear Mahogany,

Recently, I have not been having sex because I’m worried about my vagina getting loose. A friend of mine told me that regular sex would my vagina loose and I don’t want that to happen. But I still want to have sex.

Ada 26.

Dear Ada,

Thanks for reaching out to us. In today’s world the emphasis placed on a tight vagina by men has become a major issue for most women. In lyrics of songs, polls on social media or in normal conversations in which a tight vagina presents itself as a yardstick to grade the ‘promiscuity’ of the woman.

NO, regular sex cannot make your vagina loose.

Have you ever wondered how the vagina can push out something as large as a baby and still retain its regular size? Well, the vagina, like the dick, comes in different shapes and sizes. The vaginal muscles are elastic which means it can contract and return to its natural size after childbirth or sexual intercourse. A woman may comfortably accommodate a large penis because her vagina is wider and another woman may find it more difficult due to the size of her vagina and not because she has had regular sex. I mean, we don’t blame men for the size of their penis, we should not feel uncomfortable about the size of our vagina.

When a woman is aroused, her vaginal muscles relaxes to prepare her for intercourse. Excessive tightness of the vagina during intercourse in most cases may signify that the woman is not fully aroused for sex or she suffers from a condition known as Vaginismus. The loosening or relaxation of the vagina during intercourse does not signify that your vagina may have stretched for as long as 50 miles or automatically becomes a bottomless pit, it just makes room for the penis, this ’loosening’ tightens the vagina around the penis to achieve optimized pleasure and after intercourse returns to its normal size. How scared do we become that our anus may grow wider because of our constant use of it. I thought as much.

Dear black girl, don’t be deceived into thinking that regular sex makes your vagina perpetually deep. Although looseness of the vagina may occur in different women due to some factors such as age; in aging the estrogen levels diminish and the vaginal walls may become thinner and begin to lose their tautness, menopause, childbirth; after childbirth the walls of the vagina contracts and returns to its normal size. Don’t fret, performing Kegel exercises can help your vagina tighten and help you stay healthier and sexually healthy.

Remember, you are beautiful in every size.

Lots of love,

Mahogany.