Dear Mahogany,

I don’t believe the idea of orgasm is real at all. Everyone talks about the clitoris being the pleasure point for orgasms but it seems like I’ve been cursed. Even my boyfriend doesn’t understand why. Sometimes I feel sensations on my clitoris during sex and it’s a wonderful experience but I don’t know how to make it happen again., I enjoy it, Please help me make it happen.

Cindy

Hello Cindy,

Thanks for reaching out . From your message it’s obvious that you have experienced clitoral orgasm but you don’t know how it happened or what position or touch that even triggered it. You are not alone. A lot of women who experience clitoral orgasm only know it happens but do not know how to trigger it.next time.

To know what turns you on, you should be ready to experiment with your touch.  Some people’s clitorises are so sensitive that they don’t want to be touched directly but prefer circular hand motions above the external clitoris. Others want an intense vibration directly on the clit. The only way to find out what works for you is by exploring.  Masturbation is not an assignment, it’s your sure guide to pleasure.

If you are new to masturbation, it can seem difficult understanding your pleasure spot.. In some cases your clitoral hood can be a deciding factor in the type of orgasm you have.

Check out your type of clitoral hood to understand how it affects your orgasm.

 A hood with more or thicker tissue may affect sensations felt during stimulation. In this case the hood doesn’t move quite easily which means you might not feel enough stimulation to orgasm while the hood is down.  This doesn’t mean you cannot achieve orgasm, you would need extra pressure against your clitoris and clitoral hood to achieve orgasm.

Take your time to understand your body, get lubes or use toys like bullet, suction toys or vibrators to help you stimulate your clitoris to understand its sensitivity and what makes you orgasm..

I hope you take time to understand your body, Mahogany is always here for you.

Love,

Mahogany.