Say No to Dry Spells: 6 Tips and Tricks to Bring the Heat Back to Your Bedroom
What is a dry spell?
Dry Spells, you know that high energy that comes with a new relationship and you are going at each other
like rabbits (The honeymoon phase), when that energy gradually disappears that’s a sexual dry
spell. It is a period when there is little or no action happening sexually.
The mixture of chemicals associated with the excitement of new sexual experiences can sustain
a relationship for a considerable period, usually ranging from a few months up to two
years. Once this feeling subsides, we may experience a sense of emptiness: our sense of
playfulness dwindles, we simply go through the motions, and eventually, negative emotions
such as resentment start to surface. This can lead to a feeling of despair.
A dry spell is one of the major issues couples face in their relationship. No, it doesn’t mean they
are not compatible or they had a bad relationship. It means you and your partner love each
other but have a boring sex life.
Why are you having a dry spell?
Sometimes everything can be overwhelming and you have zero or no energy for your sexual
Lives. This could be as a result of busy schedules and stress or you are in a long-distance relationship.
We have all had our fair share of sexual Dry spells and they are completely normal, regardless
of your relationship status.
Life just has a way of taking a toll on a couple’s sex life. It could be anything at all, kids, school,
chores, health, finances. The list can go on and this doesn’t mean singles are left out because
Dry spells can also happen when you are not feeling sexually confident.
Here are some tips to help you reignite your mojo and bring back the spark in your relationship:
Addressing the elephant in the room:
Have an honest and deep conversation about the root cause of your dry spell and how you both feel about sex at the moment. Remind each other of the fulfilling sex life you had at the beginning of your relationship and try to relive those moments.
Take things slow:
Quality sex in times like this outweighs quantity, so focus on reigniting the spark in your relationship by going back to your honeymoon phase. Go on dates, steal kisses, cuddle, jump into showers together, and don’t forget to compliment your partner.
Redefine Sexy:
Another fun tip for regaining your sexual groove back is trying out new things. Experiment with new lingerie, sex toys, role-playing, or watching porn together. Don’t limit yourselves to the bedroom alone; try out new locations and send thirst traps to each other while you are apart. The anticipation of an impending sexual encounter can create a sense of excitement which in turn can heighten one’s level of arousal and desire.
Solo play:
Learning about sexual pleasure through masturbation helps to gain knowledge and understanding about your body’s preferences. With this knowledge, you can apply what you have learned in the bedroom. Your partner would appreciate learning from you and discovering the unique tricks and techniques that excite you. By sharing your knowledge, you can help enhance your sexual experience and reignite your sex life.
Bonus tip: Don’t be afraid to put on a little show.
Willingness to explore:
To fully enjoy your sexual experiences, it is important to be open to trying out new things and exploring different forms of pleasure. Don’t limit yourself to the usual routine, but instead, be willing to push boundaries and experiment with new techniques, positions, or activities. By doing so, you may discover new ways to excite your body, heighten your senses, and enhance your overall sexual experience. Don’t hold back or be afraid to step out of your comfort zone, as exploring new forms of pleasure could lead to the discovery of exciting and fulfilling sexual adventures.
Embrace your sensuality:
Do you feel confident and sexy in your own skin, or do you tend to shy away from your reflection? It’s perfectly fine to have different levels of self-confidence, but feeling comfortable and loving your body can enhance your sexual experience. When you like yourself, you’re not only attracted to the person you’re getting into bed with, but you’re also allowing them to appreciate and be attracted to you. Remember, you are your own aphrodisiac!
Your sex life can suffer from life’s challenges, but fear not, as these tips can help you overcome your sexual dry spell and rekindle your passion. Keep in mind that there are endless possibilities in sex, and by being open to exploration, you can find new ways to fulfill your desires and reignite your sexual mojo.
