I’m in my mid-thirties. Why am I always horny?

Dear Mahogany,

I’m in my mid thirties and I recently observed that my sex drive has increased all of a sudden. My husband can’t seem to understand why I’m insatiable. Is there anything I can do to stop it?

Anonymous.

Dear Anonymous,

Thank you for reaching out.Let me officially welcome you to your sexual prime.

First things first, you are not alone. The thirties is considered the sexual prime for most women because many women find that they enjoy sex more, have a heightened sex drive and are not shy about what they want in the bedroom.

Although as men and women get older there is normally a decline in the testosterone levels but in women the decline happens slower than in men which explains why your husband may be finding it impossible to keep up since your libido is mismatched.

Now, there is nothing wrong with having a surge in libido. Embrace it, it’s your sexual prime. There hasn’t been any scientific backing to explain this but there are certain theories which we cannot help but agree to.

It’s your sexual prime

1. You have become more comfortable in your body

Remember when you were in your twenties and during sex all you were worrying about was if your partner found your stomach to be too flabby or maybe he noticed the stretches on your breast? Now, when you think about it, I’m sure it sounds really funny.

Turning 30 doesn’t automatically take away your insecurities but studies have shown that as women get older there is a reduction in the objectifying of their bodies, just acceptance. Mindfulness during sex is a great libido booster, it signifies you are in the present and ready to get value from your workout. *winks*

For most women twenties is a period of sexual discovery while their thirties a place of acceptance. At this point in your life, you know what you want, you are more aware of what brings you sexual pleasure and you are not afraid to ask for it. Does this sound like you?

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2. You know what you like

For most women their twenties is a period of sexual discovery while their thirties a place of acceptance. At this point in your life, you know what you want, you are more aware of what brings you sexual pleasure and you are not afraid to ask for it. Does this sound like you?

3. You have better orgasms

Alfred Kinsey a sex researcher in one of his reports claimed that women had more orgasms in their thirties than any other time in their lifespan. Researchers also found out that women within ages 31 to 45 were the most sexually active. 87 percent said they had sex regularly, satisfactory sex. Plus orgasms can be a motivation for more sex. The more she cums, the more she wants.

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4. You have a stable partner

Studies have shown that women experience more pleasure with a long term partner. Most women in their mid thirties are either married or have a stable sex partner. The amazing benefit to having a stable sex partner is that you both have shared knowledge of your bodies and giving each other pleasure often is not alien.

5. You know your body

You feel less awkward when it comes to touching your body plus you know your body well enough to direct your partner on how to pleasure you. Of course, at this stage dealing with uncomfortable or unsatisfactory sex is a NO for you, hence you don’t find it difficult communicating or coaching your partner on how things should be done.

If you find yourself experiencing your sexual prime already, embrace it with all you have. There is nothing wrong, you can include love toys when it comes to sex with your partner if he finds it difficult keeping up so you can both be on the same page.

Love,

Mahogany

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